Premarital counseling is a great way to know you are starting your marriage off on the right foot. Many engaged couples are not sure if premarital counseling is right for them. If you are getting married, chances are you are very much in love. The majority of marriages start because two people are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. Love is not the determining factor in successful marriages. Love has to be combined with other ingredients to last over time. So, how do you know if you need premarital counseling? Review the list below to see if premarital counseling will help you to have a lifelong happy marriage:
1. You feel worse after a fight – All relationships have conflict. There is no way to get around it. You will have disagreements. Successful marriages do not lack conflict. What they have is an effective way to resolve issues. Premarital counseling will help you and your partner resolve conflict in a way that you both feel understood and supported.
2. You have doubts – A certain amount of “cold feet” is expected leading up to a wedding. Getting married is a huge leap of faith. If you have doubts – it’s important that you examine them with your partner. Do not sweep them under the rug. Premarital counseling will get to the heart of your doubts and resolve them so that you feel completely confident walking down the aisle.
3. You aren’t fully open – Successful marriage requires superior communication. If you do not feel comfortable being completely open with your partner your relationship bond will suffer. Over time you will start to stuff your feelings, blame or become resentful of your partner. Premarital counseling will help to identify and resolve blocks that keep you from being open.
There is no one recipe for a successful marriage. All relationships are different but having confidence, resolving conflict effectively and having open communication are vital to keeping your relationship strong. If you are getting married and would like some support, contact me. I’m happy to work with you and your fiance to ensure a strong foundation for a life-long, happy marriage.